Hdmdc, 62

A few years ago my wife had open-heart surgery. The hospital screwed up and she came out with a heart not fixed, no feeling in her leg because of nerve damage (needs a brace to walk), drop foot, paralyzed toes and subsequently high blood pressure and diabetes. As a result of that, the medication, and the constant pain, we no longer have a love life. We haven’t made love in four years. But I don’t hold it against her or even bring it up. It’s not her fault and her suffering is more important than me “not getting any.” I’ll never abandon her and I do love her, but I’m also a passionate, romantic man and sometimes, when I feel especially lonely I find myself on these sites, sort of looking around. I don’t want to make it seem like I’m using this to create sympathy for myself. I just wanted to let people know that it wasn't one of those "my wife doesn't understand me" things.