HELP ME

[mrtilt]

I Can't seem to figure out what I have done wrong. Are there any women out here that can help??? Lets start out with the fact that I am 38 and have been married for 7 years. Of course when my wife and I met we were very close. We would have --- (or make love) quite frequently. Well years have passed and now things have just gotten so unbelievable. There is nothing spontaneous about our physical relationship. I mean it has gotten to the point where I try to hold her hand and she feels uneasy about that. I am a good looking guy and women hit on me quite often. The real problem is that I am still very attracted to my wife. She is a beautiful lady and very sexy. I have given up trying to make love to her for the most part. I have recently come to this site hoping to find a lover on the side but I feel so odd about that. I have never cheated on a woman before. Help ME!!!

[mikecrx3]

`Try to spice up your love life, dont just use the bed go out be outgoing about what you do. Remember what turns her on and use it to your advantage and most important tell her how you feel, i told mine how I felt about what was going on with the lack of --- and our ------ relationship and she told me I was free to get love on the side as long as it was not at the house and our kid or her never know about it and she puts out more to keep me home.

[marriedyoung]

`Ask her what makes her uncomfortable. Have a sit down with her and have her figure what she wants. She may be unattracted to you or may feel self conscious about herself.

[FRIENDOFWOMEN57 (deleted)]

I have been in the same boat. We were married for 32 years and have had the same problems. She was 16 and I 21, and went to PA with a friend who was going to find out what was going on up there. You see my wife was being ed by her father since she was 12 everytime her mother was in the Hosp. having another baby, 8 in total and my wife was the oldest. We got there and i found that noone believed her and the child protective agency actually took her out of the home, and left the father around three other sisters instead of putting him in jail. Her mother would never leave him, and actually took him back after leaving for a month at a time, after taking the welfare check with him leaving the family to fend for themselves. I took my wife to Long Island and got married one month later out of the home with the permission from her mother. But the marriage never grew, and stayed the same, and we lived with the love between us as a brother/protector for years, had one child after 20 years, but that did not change the marriage. Now 32 years later I finally got to the bottom of the story, and found that my wife had been living with sorro for the sake of Vows and having a child. She was desperate to get out of the home at the time, but we stayed together and loved each other, but the marriage was never like it should be, and now had a talk with her and found she missed her fun as a teen and needed to find herself, and we agreed to have an in house seperation and we look for dates until she finds someone who is her soulmate. I need the same thing too as we don't have much in common and we need more from life. But now have the problem of the PTSD she has and people on dating sites that reject us because we are married, but we didn't want to lie to new partners, and tell the story as here, but people are so ---- up with marriage vows that they actually hurt her with the words condemming her. PTSD affects only the people who are married in this situation and the mate is the one who has to endure the pain of a wife that doesn't feel as a wife should. My desires are so involved that I understand women with all the drama and pains they feel and anatomical features of women that I would make a great lover if women gave me a chance to know me. I am good with G-spot and clitoral stimulation and have actually had a woman faint from the intense pleasure and another break out in hives from the extreme overload, but my wife can not have any ------- with me at all and tried to fake to please me, but this is not healthy. So you think you have problems? I hope partners in this situation can overcome the love they think they have to take my advice. If you love something, set it free, and if they come back it was ment to be. :idea:

Friendof women has a unique way to solve social problems and can be of help to other couples with problems, I don't mind, as it could set you free, or help save a marriage that is misunderstood.